Thank you for putting control into context, leveling the playing field between the control over one’s spouse with control over shoelaces. All of these things are skills that we learn. So I have to ask, what sort of control is valuable and what control hurts us? When we start to play the games of office politics, when we start to fight tooth and nail for promotions or for the ability to control our coworker’s emotions, I feel like we are hurting ourselves. But why is this the case, and can we ascertain some sort of rule of thumb to make us more efficient in our searches for happiness? On the other side of the spectrum, one could simply learn to experience life as it is, never reach for control except in the most base of cases.